I have not written in a while. I have been in contact with a great site for divorced parents, or people that are in the process of doing so, or simply have questions. I have promised their editor that I would start writing in both locations, and will start doing so with more passion. The site is called http://www.divorce360.com/ and I highly recommend joining and reading... even if you think you don't have any issues then maybe you can help someone that does.
I will just ramble for a couple of entries, but I do have some new stuff to share....
We all made it through the holidays without a hitch.
As noted eariler, I am remarried, and my kids accept my wife.
Both of my kids dislike my ex's live in boyfriend. Now I know what you are thinking, but this is not me listening to the kids, my ex has told me that the kids don't like her boyfriend.
My kids can talk to my wife about anything, and often speak to her about things before they talk to me about it. They trust her, and respect her input. For the record, my kids are 14 and soon to be 12.
Dilema? Well, my ex refuses to "allow" my wife to be any part of any topics, and for the lack of a better explination she doesn't really want my wife to tell, in her words "them what to do" or "have any say in anything involving the kids".
Now, my take is that I EXPECT her boyfriend to treat my kids as if they were his own. Play wiht them, talk to them, listen to them, and tell them what to do. I am not asking him to replace me, but I would like to know that while I am not standing there to look over my kids someone is who cares about them. According to the kids, he doesn't care for them, and they are returning the favor.
When the kids are with us they understand that my wife has full power to veto anything they are doing, trying to eat, or trying to get away with. Even if I am in the house when this is going on. It has been this way since day one, and I think the kids appreciate that even though the answer isn't always what they want to hear.
I also feel good knowing that my kids have someone to talk to. Even if it is not me. I love them, and they love me, they know I am there for them and so is my wife.
Thoughts?
Questions?
Is anyone out there?
I will just ramble for a couple of entries, but I do have some new stuff to share....
We all made it through the holidays without a hitch.
As noted eariler, I am remarried, and my kids accept my wife.
Both of my kids dislike my ex's live in boyfriend. Now I know what you are thinking, but this is not me listening to the kids, my ex has told me that the kids don't like her boyfriend.
My kids can talk to my wife about anything, and often speak to her about things before they talk to me about it. They trust her, and respect her input. For the record, my kids are 14 and soon to be 12.
Dilema? Well, my ex refuses to "allow" my wife to be any part of any topics, and for the lack of a better explination she doesn't really want my wife to tell, in her words "them what to do" or "have any say in anything involving the kids".
Now, my take is that I EXPECT her boyfriend to treat my kids as if they were his own. Play wiht them, talk to them, listen to them, and tell them what to do. I am not asking him to replace me, but I would like to know that while I am not standing there to look over my kids someone is who cares about them. According to the kids, he doesn't care for them, and they are returning the favor.
When the kids are with us they understand that my wife has full power to veto anything they are doing, trying to eat, or trying to get away with. Even if I am in the house when this is going on. It has been this way since day one, and I think the kids appreciate that even though the answer isn't always what they want to hear.
I also feel good knowing that my kids have someone to talk to. Even if it is not me. I love them, and they love me, they know I am there for them and so is my wife.
Thoughts?
Questions?
Is anyone out there?
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